Biased? Isn’t everyone? [book review]

Earlier this year, the police brutally murdered George Floyd. Videos quickly circulated, showing a police officer kneeling on George’s neck for almost 9 minutes, while George repeatedly said, “I can’t breathe,” before dying of asphyxiation.

This is not the first police-related death, and it wasn’t the last. People continue to die at the hands of the police. How is it that men and women—sworn to protect and serve—are now considered by many to be the enemy? With so many people protesting the injustice of what happened to George Floyd and the riots that followed, my company’s CEO gave everyone a copy of Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do by Jennifer L. Eberhardt.

I’ll be honest. This was not the book I would have picked. I hadn’t even heard of this book before. It was also absent from many suggested reading lists that popped up all over the internet during this time.

However, I did ultimately find this to be an informative, well-written, educational book. And while the title seems to indicate it’s generally about bias, it is more specifically about race-related bias.

“Our ideas about race are shaped by the stereotypes to which we are exposed on a daily basis. And one of the strongest stereotypes in American society associates blacks with criminality.”

Eberhardt presents her information set within the context of her work with the Oakland police department and her brief time teaching introductory social psychology to inmates at San Quentin. She mixes anecdotes from her work- and life-experiences with many eye-opening statistics such as the one in the following quote.

“Some five million children—roughly 7 percent of all children living in the United States—have a parent who is currently or was previously incarcerated, according to data from the National Survey of Children’s Health.”

Overall, Biased is a decent introduction to bias and how it often unconsciously impairs our ability to be fair-minded and free from stereotypes and racism. The main point she makes is that everyone has biases, everyone is affected by bias. The goal is to recognize, if we can, what’s causing our bias and to try to see the world without it.

This is a good book to read if you’re looking for something close to home. I’m from San Jose, so I found it interesting to read about Oakland, which is nearby. However, if you’re looking for a book about bias in general or more specific information on racism, the history of racism in the US, or on how to combat racism, that’s not what this book is.

“It’s implausible to believe that officers—or anyone else—can be immersed in an environment that repetitively exposes them to the categorical pairing of blacks with crime and not have that affect how they think, feel, or behave.”

I have three main critiques:

  1. The chapter dedicated to the “Unite the Right” march, which occurred near UVA in 2017, doesn’t feel completely relevant and seems a bit out of place.
  2. When introducing statistics about Airbnb and Nextdoor, I felt she went overboard explaining these companies’ concepts. On the flip side, she mentioned Uber once or twice with no explanation. 
  3. The author offers minimal to no solutions or suggestions for continued reading, learning, etc. 

“How do we know when we are being insensitive or unfair? How much of who we are and how we feel is dictated by things outside our awareness or control? How often are we really the tolerant, fair-minded person we want to be? And how can we learn to check ourselves and mute the negative impact that bias can have?”

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

The Honest Enneagram – book review

This was book 65 of the year for me, and the book that completed my goodreads.com reading challenge. I think, actually, that I need to adjust that goal to be a little higher. As of this writing, I’m sitting at 66 books done for 2020.

As for The Honest Enneagram, this is my first book on the subject (and probably not the last — hello type 5 here!). At its core, the enneagram is a personality test (like Myers-Briggs). Answer a few questions, and get sorted into type categories. It’s a bit like the Sorting Hat from Harry Potter! I will probably do a whole post just on my thoughts on the enneagram, but for now, I’ll focus on this book.

First of all, I loved how the author breaks down each type into sections and discusses both the positives and negatives. She also does a great job with the quick summary of “just 3-4 things to keep in mind daily to be your best self.”

This is a great “let’s jump into the enneagram and learn about all the types” first book. However, it doesn’t delve into the history or evolution of the enneagram at all, and I’m super interested to learn more about that.

The book presents the material in a very nice, positive light. The author talks about how she dislikes some of the common language often used in enneagram types, giving lazy as an example. She has reframed these to statements such as “tired after doing so much for others all day” instead of lazy. I think this is setting a good example; Many of us are hurting ourselves with negative self-talk, and type descriptions using words like lazy reinforces that.

Case states the goal is not to overcome our type pattern. Your type is part of who you are, part of your core being. It’s not something to be changed or overcome. Learning about the enneagram is about being the best version of who you already are.

I listened to this on audible, and as an audiobook, I did find there were a few challenges. It can be hard to find specific content within an audiobook. A reference sheet would have been super useful. A simple PDF with a summary of the types and variants would suffice. It was really hard for me to keep a mental picture of all 9 types and their main characteristics and variants. The explanations of how your type pattern shifts during times of rest or stress were difficult to follow because of this. For example, during times of stress, type 4s go towards type 2. In order to understand this, I not only have to know about a type 4, but also a type 2.

I also really enjoyed the “bingo cards” for each type, but the full effect was missing in the audiobook presentation.

The one big negative for me that makes this a 3-star vs a 4-star book is the repetition. For each type, the author breaks down the type and her advice into the same sections. This is not inherently bad, but she reuses many of the same sentences for each of the 9 types. I would have preferred a fresh take on introducing the advice or really anything other than the repetition again and again (9 times).

Rating: 3 out of 5.

I received a free copy of this book from NetGalley, in exchange for a fair and honest review. This does not impact my opinion of the book or my review in any way.

On Writing, by Stephen King

When I was younger, I used to write wrote a lot often. Some poetry, an occasional story. I still write, nowadays though, it’s mostly email, and sometimes this blog.

Book Cover for On Writing

I’d like to jump back into it and to get started, I read On Writing by Stephen King.

Write a lot, and read a lot.

The Prime Rule, Stephen King

There is a lot of great advice in this book, mixed in with a brief memoir. I’m a huge fan, and have been for a long as I can remember. When I was 14, my girlfriends and I went to see the movie Sleepwalkers. Did they enjoy it? Probably not. But I had a love for the King, and for the genre and I started early.

Due to a lack of dedication on my part, I have not grown or improved as a writer. Reading this showed me that there’s always room for improvement and that if I want to be a serious writer, I need to be serious about writing.

Language does not always have to wear a tie and lace-up shoes.

Stephen King

I’m already putting some of King’s advice into practice. Adverbs are the enemy, and the passive voice is timid, boring, and as King says, just plain “awful”. You can see this in action where I’ve revised the first sentence.

Sparingly, sparsely, and stealthily is how I shall use adverbs from now on. And that sentence stinks, alliteration not intentional. On a serious note, I do not think I have a tendency to over use adverbs, but we shall see now that I’m paying attention.

And what is it that draws me to the passive voice? WordPress has this SEO tool, Yoast, and it’s always complaining at me that too many of my sentences are passive voice. It also tends to complain about my sentence length (too long).

King also suggests writing (and reading) daily. I certainly have the reading part down. Of course, he is primarily talking about writing fiction, and I’m not sure (yet) if that’s where my passion as a writer lies. Can I write 1,000 words daily?

The scariest moment is always just before you start. After that, things can only get better.

Stephen King

Why We Sleep

I recently finished reading Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. This book was mentioned by Michael Pollan in his audiobook Caffeine. Pollan made it sound so interesting, I couldn’t resist reading it.

And let me say, it’s VERY interesting. And I’m not just saying that because I already own a sleep tracker. There is so much information in this book that shocked me.

For example, I was not aware that there’s a spike in both heart attacks and car accidents following spring forward (the changing of the clocks ahead an hour for daylight saving time). I was also not aware that drowsy (tired) driving kills more people in the US than drunk driving.

Another interesting fact — 10 consecutive days of sleeping for only 7 hours causes as much brain dysfunction as a full-night of no sleep. Having pulled more than one all-nighter in my life, I can’t imagine walking around like that all the time. Apparently many of us are doing just that, because humans are very bad at recognizing when they are sleep deprived.

The only thing I didn’t like about this book is that throughout, and mostly towards the end, I felt like the author was a little heavy-handed with the language and the attempts to sell me on the dangers of limited or poor quality sleep. I would have preferred a less impassioned statement of the facts.

I really found this to be fascinating and something that more people should read. Parents, too, should read this. He talks about the neurological role of sleep in brain development and the links between certain conditions/diseases and sleep, as well as the impact on education and learning.

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

P.S. If you’re wondering what a sleep tracker does, here’s a snapshot of some of the data mine collects for me.

The regularity is “unknown” because it’s only been running a few days this year. And NO, I didn’t actually sleep 10h21m. It seems to think I’m sleeping when I’m in bed, reading. I noticed today it has an “extra sensitive” mode, so I might enable that and see if the data comes out a little better.

It also now picks up breathing disturbances and snoring. It says I don’t snore, but that I’ve had “a few” breathing disturbances per night and no snoring. I wonder if it’s picking up the dogs or Dexter?

This, by the way, is an example of a good sleep duration (even when you subtract the 1-1.5 hours I was reading and not sleeping), but very poor quality sleep. I woke up a lot (5 times!!!) and I didn’t get very much deep sleep. I think it’s because of the weather, it was an extremely hot day and about 80º inside when I went to bed.

P.P.S. If you missed me the last few weeks, I’m sorry. With all the horribly tragic things going on in the world, it hasn’t felt right for me to blog about daily life, or trivial things like what I ate or the progress on my current puzzle. So, I’m back again with this because I do think this info on sleep is actually REALLY IMPORTANT (like the author, ha)! I doubt I will be posting daily, however, I’m trying to be more CONSISTENT (that one is for Tobias), so hopefully you’ll be seeing 1-3 posts per week going forward. AND NO I AM NOT GOING TO KEEP COUNTING THE QUARANTINE DAYS MOM!