The Honest Enneagram – book review

This was book 65 of the year for me, and the book that completed my goodreads.com reading challenge. I think, actually, that I need to adjust that goal to be a little higher. As of this writing, I’m sitting at 66 books done for 2020.

As for The Honest Enneagram, this is my first book on the subject (and probably not the last — hello type 5 here!). At its core, the enneagram is a personality test (like Myers-Briggs). Answer a few questions, and get sorted into type categories. It’s a bit like the Sorting Hat from Harry Potter! I will probably do a whole post just on my thoughts on the enneagram, but for now, I’ll focus on this book.

First of all, I loved how the author breaks down each type into sections and discusses both the positives and negatives. She also does a great job with the quick summary of “just 3-4 things to keep in mind daily to be your best self.”

This is a great “let’s jump into the enneagram and learn about all the types” first book. However, it doesn’t delve into the history or evolution of the enneagram at all, and I’m super interested to learn more about that.

The book presents the material in a very nice, positive light. The author talks about how she dislikes some of the common language often used in enneagram types, giving lazy as an example. She has reframed these to statements such as “tired after doing so much for others all day” instead of lazy. I think this is setting a good example; Many of us are hurting ourselves with negative self-talk, and type descriptions using words like lazy reinforces that.

Case states the goal is not to overcome our type pattern. Your type is part of who you are, part of your core being. It’s not something to be changed or overcome. Learning about the enneagram is about being the best version of who you already are.

I listened to this on audible, and as an audiobook, I did find there were a few challenges. It can be hard to find specific content within an audiobook. A reference sheet would have been super useful. A simple PDF with a summary of the types and variants would suffice. It was really hard for me to keep a mental picture of all 9 types and their main characteristics and variants. The explanations of how your type pattern shifts during times of rest or stress were difficult to follow because of this. For example, during times of stress, type 4s go towards type 2. In order to understand this, I not only have to know about a type 4, but also a type 2.

I also really enjoyed the “bingo cards” for each type, but the full effect was missing in the audiobook presentation.

The one big negative for me that makes this a 3-star vs a 4-star book is the repetition. For each type, the author breaks down the type and her advice into the same sections. This is not inherently bad, but she reuses many of the same sentences for each of the 9 types. I would have preferred a fresh take on introducing the advice or really anything other than the repetition again and again (9 times).

Rating: 3 out of 5.

I received a free copy of this book from NetGalley, in exchange for a fair and honest review. This does not impact my opinion of the book or my review in any way.

Black Wings Beating

This YA fantasy book by Alex London pairs falconry and mysticism for a fun, but ultimately unsatisfying adventure. Kylee and her brother Brysen are desperately trying to pay off their dead father’s debts to the Tamirs, the family that lords over the Six Villages. Brysen gets into some trouble, and Kylee is forced to help him get out of it.

With a forgotten language, opposing religious factions, and a strong female lead character—Kylee—this novel started with a lot of promise. It gets bogged down by the spelling of each character’s name; We have Kylee, Brysen, Nyall, Nyck, Vyvian, Yzzat, Dymian…. is there a law in the Six Villages that names must contain the letter Y? While this might be a minor or non-issue for some people, I found it to be very distracting.

Quite a bit of the plot is predictable. There are two big plot twists; one you can see coming from miles away and the other is sort of a let down given the obviousness of the other. I felt it dragged on for a long time, and then it had a bit of a cliff-hanger ending, where to find out how it ultimately ends, you need to read the next book. All in all, I don’t think I liked it enough to read the next book, so it gets 2.5 stars from me.

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

I received a free copy of this novel from NetGalley.com in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own.

Shooting Stars

This week, the Perseid Meteor Shower hit its prime viewing peak. With a visibility estimate of 160-200 meteors per hour, I managed to see several shooting stars, although some of them were quite faint. Most of all, I enjoyed taking the time to appreciate nature and to unplug for a bit.

If you’re a sciencey-type person, you can find more information about the Perseid Meteor Shower here. I find it fascinating that what we’re watching is remnants of Comet Swift-Tuttle from 1862 or before. Since this is all happening trillions of miles away, it takes quite some time for it to be visible from Earth, even though it appears to be happening in realtime. I suppose it’s all a matter of perspective.

Wednesday night, I lay in my hammock late at night, staring up at the night sky. I felt like an insignificant speck of dust, on a rock, lazily making its way through a vast, unknowable space. Is this not an accurate description? On a cosmic scale, humans, and one individual human at that, are just specks of dust.

Searching for shooting stars, wishing for a falling star, I kept coming back to this thought of insignificance.

As we sit on this 3rd rock from the sun, we often forget that we are orbiting the sun. We have a false perspective that we are stationary, and everything else is moving. The Earth is always moving, and it’s taking us along with it.

When I think about the sheer enormity of the universe, it boggles my mind. It’s already hard to worry about the typo in my email to someone important at work, the perceived criticism from a friend, the less than healthy food choices I made today. There is so much shit happening in the world today: a global pandemic that’s killed almost a million people; a general state of unrest in the US due to police violence, racism, and politics; climate change; and a complete idiot who’s running the country into the ground.

When set within the context of the universe as a whole, the cosmic insignificance of all these seemingly gigantic issues becomes clear. Does the sun care about racism? Does Comet Swift-Tuttle care if humans will be extinct—or not—on its next pass?

The Brain in the Vat : - Is the Universe Real ?

All of this has me thinking about philosophy, and that makes me think about Plato’s Cave, which then causes me to think about the brain in a vat theory.

So, what’s the point? Should we bury our heads in the sand and ignoring the problems in the world today? I don’t think so. Suffering exists. It will always exist, but so too will the things that can alleviate it.

However, everyone can benefit from taking a step back, framing their perspective, and investing in determining what’s truly important in their lives. I think someone famous once said “don’t sweat the small stuff,” and also “it’s all small stuff.”

On that note, I’ll end with this. I’m working out what those important things are in my life, and on letting go of the small stuff. That, and I really want to spend more time learning about philosophy, I find it fascinating.

Friday 5 – And we are merely players

  1. When were you last onstage, literally or figuratively? High school. I’m trying to remember which play was the last one — maybe 7 Brides for 7 Brothers?
  2. Beginning with the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, what would you name the different personal stages you’ve been through to today? 1 – vacation anxiety, 2 – flying on plane anxiety, 3 – grocery shopping anxiety, 4 – everything is online, let’s spend money, wheeeee….
  3. When did you unintentionally upstage someone, or when did someone unintentionally upstage you? I probably do this unintentionally all the time. Sometimes I am not always as aware of others as I could be.
  4. How or when do you experience stage fright? Yes, I hate public speaking. My boss makes me do it all the time, and rightfully so, it’s part of my job, still hate it!
  5. What are you in the early stages of, and what are you the late stages of? I am in the early stages of kitten fostering. The babies have been here for 5 days. I am lso in the early stages of writing a short story, but it’s just an exercise and probably will not be shared WITH ANYONE! Late stages — I’m not sure, I tend to start projects and not finish them. Oh! The bathroom remodel. Just a few finishing touches left…..

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